Thursday, May 16, 2019

(Thursday activities are not organized by BYU, they are organized by the LDS Widows & Widowers Committee)

9:30 a.m. Group Hike in Provo Area-Meet to carpool to trailhead at Oak Hills Stake Center (925 E. North Temple Drive, Provo, UT)  or meet at Canyon Glen Park at 10:00.  Two levels, easy & moderate.  Both will begin at the same place.  More details in Events on the LDS Widows & Widowers Facebook page, or go to this link:  https://www.facebook.com/events/2228892740708256/?ti=icl 

3:00 p.m.

Temple Session 
Provo Temple
2200 Temple Hill Dr., Provo, UT 84604 (meet in the back of the chapel)

3:20 p.m

Temple Session 
Provo Temple
2200 Temple Hill Dr., Provo, UT 84604 (meet in the back of the chapel) 

5:30 p.m. Dinner on your own 
7:00 - 9:00 p.m.

Get-to-know-you Activities and Dessert Bar (casual dress) 

Suggested Donation: $5.00 for both Thursday and Friday nights/$3.00 one night
 
Location:  Oak Hills Stake Center:  925 E. North Temple Drive, Provo, UT
 
Required: Verified member of LDS Widows & Widower FB group and/or widowed status

Friday, May 17, 2019

(Schedule Subject to Change)

*Class Descriptions found at the bottom of the page.

 

 

Workshop Descriptor Code-To help guide your workshop choices
G- General, for anyone
CG- Complicated Grief
NW- New(er) Widow(er)
D/RM- Dating and/or Remarriage
K- About Kids

8:30 a.m.

Check-in and Registration

9:30 a.m.

Welcome/Opening Keynote - Patti Edwards - The Road

11:00 a.m.

Break-Outs:

  1. NW-Kent Allen-The Grieving Process
  2. G-Mark Bishop-Adventures in Adversity
  3. D/RM-Sharon Colyar-Dating Again
  4. G-Kim Wawro-Trust in the Lord:  The Designer of the Beautiful Tapestry of Your Life
  5. G-Becky NielsenFinancial Worries on Half a Brain: Understanding Investments
  6. G-Leila Headlee- Healing from the Emotional Trauma of Grief

12:00 p.m.

Break-Outs:

  1. NW/K-Kent Allen- Kids and Grief
  2. G-Mark Bishop- Adventures in Adversity
  3. D/RM-Sharon Colyar- Dating Again
  4. G-Kim Wawro-Trust in the Lord: The Designer of the Beautiful Tapestry of Your Life
  5. G-Julie Sears Wright-Thinking Positively, Avoiding the Vicim Mentality, and Finding Joy in Your Journey
  6. G-Heidi Kirby- Making Memory Items

1:00 p.m.

Lunch

2:00 p.m.

Keynote:  Anthony Sweat

3:15 p.m.

Break-Outs:

  1. D/RM-Kent Allen-Blending Families and Lives
  2. G-Scott Harman- Avoiding Addictions Brought on by Loneliness
  3. G-Ann L. Bailey-My God Is a Rock: How Music Can Lead Us to the Healer
  4. K/NW- Heather Okiishi- Going from Zero to Functional When It Is More Than Grief:  Empowering Families Coping with Mental Illness, Chronic Illness and Trauma
  5. G-Julie Sears Wright- Thinking Positively, Avoiding the Vicim Mentality, and Finding Joy in Your Journey
  6. G- Leila Headlee- Healing from the Emotional Trauma of Grief

4:30 p.m.

Connections: An opportunity to meet and mingle with people in like circumstance. Connect with people who are your age, live near by, have kids of a similar age, experienced similar loss and for a similar length of time. You may be surprised to see you connect in many different ways!

5:30 p.m.

Dinner

8:00-11:00 p.m.

WW Dance and Games - Line dancing, all fast songs, games, and lots of fun!  

Location:  Stake Center - 925 E. North Temple Drive, Provo, UT

Required:  Membership in LDS Widows & Widowers FaceBook page or BYU WW Conference Badge

Dress - Casual

Suggested Donation: $5.00 for both Thursday and Friday nights/$3.00 one night

Saturday, May 18, 2019

*Class Descriptions Found At the Bottom of the Page

 
Workshop Descriptor Code-To help guide your workshop choices
G- General, for anyone
CG- Complicated Grief
NW- New(er) Widow(er)
D/RM- Dating and/or Remarriage
K- About Kids

8:30 a.m.

Check-in and Registration

9:30 a.m.

Keynote: Janice Kapp Perry- On My Own, But Not Alone-Going Forward in Faith

11:00 a.m.

Break-Outs: (50 minutes)

  • 1-K-Kent Allen-Helping Children Become What They're Meant to Become
  • 2-D/RM-Lou Mueller Marshall-How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk or Jerkette
  • 3-G-Jonia M. Broderick- Recording Your  "Once Upon a Time"
  • 4-NW- Jolyn B. Mitchell & Friends (Sharon Colyar, Cory Grillone, LuRae Howes, Doug Winder, Gaby Winder, and Russell Butler)- Crucial Conversations on Money and Morality-Sifting through the "Fog"
  • 5-G-Greg Thorpe-Rebuilding a Foundation of Faith: Feel...Fill...Heal
  • 6-G-Jennifer Dial-Making Money in Non-Traditional Ways

Noon

Break-Outs

  1. G-Kent Allen-The Atonement, Repentance, and Hope
  2. D/RM-Lou Mueller Marshall-How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk or Jerkette
  3. G-Jonia M. Broderick-Recording Your "Once Upon a Time"
  4. NW- Jolyn B. Mitchell and Friends(Sharon Colyar, Cory Grillone, LuRae Howes, Doug Winder, Gaby Winder, and Russell Butler) -Crucial Conversations on Money and Morality-Sifting through the "Fog"
  5. G-Greg Thorpe-Rebuiling a Foundation of Faith: Feel...Fill...Heal
  6. CG-Betsy Hughes Barrow-When Grief is Complicated by Traumatic Loss:  A Discussion about Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual Healing

1:00 p.m.

Lunch

2:00 p.m.

Break-Outs:

  1. D/RM-Kent Allen-Dating Do's and Don'ts
  2. K-Esther Reid-Helping Children Deal with Difficult Emotions and Develop Resilience
  3. G-Douglas J. Herdt-Live/Retire on Purpose:  Redefining Life's Purpose in Transition and Aligning Personal Finances
  4. G-Cindy Cloninger-Perks of the Platinum Plan: Choosing to Find Purpose in Our Trials and Challenges
  5. G-Susan Eames-Finding a New You and Moving Forward after Loss
  6. K/NW- Heather Okiishi-Going from Zero to Functional When it is More Than Grief;Empowering Families Coping with Mental Illness, Chronic Illness and Trauma

3:00 p.m.

Break-Outs:

  1. NW/G-Kent Allen- Grief Q&A
  2. K-Esther Reid-Helping Children Deal with Difficult Emotions and Develop Resilience
  3. G-Douglas J. Herdt-Live/Retire on Purpose: Redefining Life's Purpose in Transition and Aligning Personal Finances
  4. G-Cindy Cloninger-Perks of the Platinum Plan: Choosing to Find Purpose in Our Trials and Challenges
  5. G-Susan Eames-Finding a New You and Moving Forward After Loss
  6. G-Jennifer Dial- Making Money in Non-Traditional Ways
4:00 p.m. Break

4:30 p.m.

Closing Keynote: Greg Thorpe

5:30 p.m. Adjournment
 

                                                  Class Descriptions

Jonia M. Broderick: Writing a personal history - whether your own or a loved one’s - can be a daunting prospect. This doesn’t need to be the reality, however. With a few tips and simple ideas you’ll discover that no matter your age or situation, writing your story is easy to do - just one story at a time.

Ann L. Bailey: Music is both a curse & a blessing in the lives of those grieving from loss of a loved one....sometimes tears, sometimes peace---sometimes both from the same song.  As we recognize Christ's characteristics in the music that speaks to our souls, we can be led to a deeper relationship with Him and claim the peace & comfort He offers.

Douglas J. Herdt: The workshop will help individuals identify their own purpose(s), and then understand how to plan financially to make those purposes a reality.

Lou Mueller Marshall: How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk or Jerkette:  As widows and widowers, we’re all on different grief journeys, but if you’re beginning to think you could love again, or you’re in a relationship and wondering if this person is right for you, you need this class. We will explore Dr. John Van Epp’s Relationship Attachment Model, and discover five essential steps that can lead to forming safe and healthy relationships.

Mark Bishop: Mark will speak to his observations regarding the following thought nuggets: why change is so difficult, small changes that make a big difference, the process of choice, the growth of a soul, and will happiness ever live here again?

Becky Nielsen: Financial woes - One widow’s journey from confusion and frustration to confidence. Who can I trust with my investments? What is a fair and reasonable charge for someone to manage my money? How do I know what fees I am paying?  Being financially literate creates confidence and is a key to financial success. Come learn foundational principles so you can better understand a variety of investment techniques and strategies, which will build your confidence and help you more mindfully manage your money.

Sharon Colyar: Practicing safer dating skills by setting healthy boundaries, identifying red flags, learning the science behind love and attraction, and knowing how to put your best self out there.

Susan Eames: When a partner dies, life changes completely. Your identity is now different, and your entire world may have been turned upside down. This workshop is designed to help participants take steps toward healing, transformation, and self-discovery. Using exercises and resources that will help rediscover dreams, desires, and strengths. Reviewing healthy coping skills that are important in resolving loss. All key processes in adapting, rebuilding, and moving forward.

Esther Reid: (Helping Children Deal with Difficult Emotions and Develop Resilience) Recognizing grief in our children can be difficult. It often looks like other things such as misbehavior, stubbornness, anger, anxiety, etc. Helping our children identify their feelings and what to do with those feelings will help them move through their grief in healthy ways. They will develop resilience, creating positive outcomes in their lives in spite of the devastating loss they experienced. We will explore ideas and tips to help our children develop these skills. Practical resources and references that can be used at home and school will also be shared.

Jolyn Mitchell: Money and sex - keeping your bank account and morality intact. This workshop will address the real phenomenon of Widow’s Fog and the science behind it. It will cover the perils and pitfalls of scammers and how to avoid their traps. You'll hear from real widows and widowers with experience, as well as engage in a panel discussion with those who “know the ropes” of navigating through Widow’s Fog and how to stay safe. Please join us for real and raw conversations on money and morality and how to create an environment safe from harm.

Julie Sears Wright: Trials and hardships are something everyone has to face in this life. How we choose to view, deal with, and respond to those hardships is vital not only to finding our own happiness and peace, but to helping our children do so as well.  This class will focus on the importance of positive thinking, avoiding the victim mentality, and ways to find joy in your journey.

Heather Okiishi: Many have more on their plates than grief. How a widow and her children used skills they had learned from 7 years of counseling to manage other illnesses (mental and physical) before grief hit, and how they incorporated that knowledge into their already-complicated lives which were now even more complicated because of grief. Discussion will include managing anxiety, triggers, and PTSD; loss of energy levels; widow’s fog; different styles of grieving for all family members; planning; and empowering yourself to become strong.

Cindy Cloninger: (Perks of the Platinum Plan: Choosing to Find Purpose in Our Trials and Challenges) A  fun look at the idea of choice in the challenges and trials we face. Are there perks in what we are facing and how to recognize them? Filled with a realistic and hopeful look at the trials I have faced and how finding and flipping our most challenging thoughts helps us to approach and find purpose. Lessons learned in grief and trial.

Greg Thorpe: (Rebuilding a Foundation of Faith: Feel...Fill...Heal) Because no one’s journey is exactly the same, there is no cookie cutter formula to rebuild, survive, or thrive after loss. This class, however, will cover steps and formulas that, if personalized and followed as the Spirit dictates, truly can liberate and set you on a healthier path to Christ and help you access His ability to bring short-term as well as long-term peace and healing.

Kim Wawro(Trust In the Lord: The Designer of the Beautiful Tapestry of Your Life) There was a different plan, a different path that you envisioned for your life.  You made decisions that led you on that road and you saw a very different future than you now face. You didn't choose this. This was not the life you thought you would be leading.  And yet, here you are. What you may not see is that even though this path was not what you planned - God does have a plan. And trust me... piece by piece He is turning it into something pretty beautiful.

Scott Harman (Avoiding Addictions Brought on by Loneliness) I will explain how the addictive cycle works and how using Jesus Christ, the Atonement, and specifically working step 4 from the LDS Addiction Recovery Program will help us cope with trials and avoid the addictive cycle.

Greg Thorpe (Rebuilding a Foundation of Faith) Because no one’s journey is exactly the same, there is no cookie cutter formula to rebuild, survive, or thrive after loss. This class, however, will cover steps and formulas that, if personalized and followed as the Spirit dictates, truly can liberate and set you on a healthier path to Christ and help you access His ability to bring short-term as well as long-term peace and healing.

Jennifer Dial (Making Money in Nontraditional Ways) Avoid get-rich-quick schemes and high pressure sales! Learn real ways to supplement your income. Descriptions of dozens of companies that hire for online positions or allow you to work your own hours.

Betsy Hughes Barrow (When Grief Is Complicated by Traumatic Loss) There are many things that can complicate the grief process, such as suicide, previous loss, a difficult marriage, divisive family relationships, infidelity, guilt, and depression (just to name a few). For some who are navigating complex questions and fears, even gospel truths that usually bring comfort, such as teachings about forever families and binding covenants, can cause confusion and fear. Learning that we are not alone, gathering additional resources, and taking steps toward forgiveness of ourselves and others can help us to heal and find peace even when we have many unanswered questions. We will discuss how to navigate the grief process when additional stumbling blocks stand in our way.

Leila Headlee (Healing from the Emotional Trauma of Grief) When we lose a spouse, everything changes, from minute details of our lives to our relationships with others and the Lord, and we ourselves become very different people. With all these adjustments and the struggles that come with them (anxiety, depression, anger, confusion), there are things we still have control of. This class will address using things we CAN control to make positive changes in our lives, and how, with the Savior’s help, we can begin to heal and move forward.